MomMe TV Blog :: "Tara Says"

I never dreamed I’d be divorced. But I was. Darn near killed me. Now, I’m married to Mr. Wonderful & livin’ the Dream. It’s the best hard job I ever had. Yet I’m always studying happy marriages for insights. I focus on the long-term tenaciously.

I’ve noticed lately couples who forget how their lives were before they found each other are hosed. When you have someone who just seems to complete you, you get used to that level of love & validation. It’s easy to forget how lonely you were before there was someone to go to foreign films with you; someone who also loves Joan Osborne & the Sunday New York Times. It’s easy to forget you no longer feel like the world’s biggest dork at social events. It’s easy to forget. But a good marriage is a discipline.

Kinda like Greek myths where the gods punish those who forget to be grateful. (Some marriages ought to end. If he’s cruel to you or your kids, pack now, girl!) The problem is taking for granted a very good thing. I’m talking wasting good love, wasting perfectly good life, wasting…man, wasting! We have a finite slice of time on earth. Why, oh why, would we not be grateful daily for the good in our lives? Why would we model any less for our children? Are we complete & total idiots?

There really are good, long marriages out there. We could learn a lot if we chose. Love that stays fresh thrives when we don’t forget where we came from & who we were before. Keep it real, so they say. Right on. Keep it real & keep it, I say.